I became a Christian at age 33 and never had a Christian mentor. When my mother passed away, I really could have used the help of an older Christian sister to help me then and to also hold me accountable in my spiritual growth. Titus 2 shows the responsibilities of church members, with verses 3-5 directed to females:
Most churches are not hurting for programs. With so many activities during the week, there are great needs in the church for workers and leaders. I have witnessed how many churches put people in teaching positions and even leadership roles way too early in their Christian walk. I have also noticed that there are many people within the church body who do not believe that we each have responsibilities within the church — their actions, of course, contradicting Romans 12:3-8 and 1 Corinthians 12:12-31. I have also seen many give up serving in the church when their families are grown or even stop attending when life gets difficult.
I am so VERY thankful for my current church home, Grace Family Fellowship. We are a reformed, family-integrated church that desires to walk in obedience to the Scriptures alone, and we align our families and our church in this same manner. We believe that the leadership of the father in the home is paramount to the instruction of the family (and NOT the youth pastor or children’s minister), and that fellowship of the church is needed in order to have true accountability. We believe accountability begins with proper delivery of God’s Word through expository preaching.
I now have more time for relationships with both older and younger women. I enjoy visiting with the younger women in my church, and I sometimes bring meals to give them a break from cooking. These younger gals in my church are teaching me so much as I observe their obedience to the LORD in their actions, the way they allow their husbands to be the head of their households, and especially in the ways they work with their children — these young women do not expect the church to teach their children. They also do not have their children in every extra-curricular activity like so many families do today.
So how are things done in your church? Do you have so many programs available that you have little time for authentic fellowship with other believers? Do you find yourself totally exhausted from all the volunteer work that you do? Have you ever been mentored, or are you currently mentoring a young believer? Do you have time for real relationships — not just reaching out to friends on the Internet?