I’ve have been shocked by the number of Christian women who have read Fifty Shades of Grey or who will be watching the movie when it comes out next week.
The other day, a Christian fitness blogger posted how most Christian women would be upset if they found out that their husbands read or watched porn. He then asked why is it okay for women to read it? While most women agreed with his post, I was surprised at how quite a few women tried to justify their reading this book, with several actually calling it a love story. Some women were even getting upset that other Christians were judging them — one woman shared how her pastor had written on her Facebook page after she posted something about Fifty Shades of Grey, and how he was no longer her pastor.
This morning I read another post that started off on how one of the nation’s leading Christian publishers conducted a survey asking Christian women to name the most influential book they had read in the past year. They found that a startling number of women said Fifty Shades of Grey was their favorite book of the year.
I had never heard of this book until a two years ago. A 10th grade student asked me, “What are you reading? Fifty Shades of Grey?” I politely told him no, asked him if he really wanted to know what I was reading, and when he said “Yes”, I told him that I was reading the Bible on my Ipad. Of course, when I got home I immediately Googled what this book was — I was floored that a student would even ask me this question! We had a few subs who were reading it during our DEAR (Drop Everything And Read) time, and many in the student body were reading it, too, so I guess that’s why this student thought it was okay for him to ask me this.
This book is pornography. If we call ourselves Christians, we are to hold each other accountable. This is where we get it wrong — we are not to judge those outside the church:
“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:1-2 (ESV)
“I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people — not at all meaning the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler—not even to eat with such a one. For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? God judges those outside. “Purge the evil person from among you.” 1 Corinthians 5:9-13 (ESV)
There’s many scriptures on sexual immorality, warning us to stay away from it. I’ve actually stopped reading any fiction at all because when I started reading books the students were reading (Divergent is one), I was disgusted at how writers are adding in underage, premarital sex to their books. I believe this is exactly why today’s teens are lacking modesty — if you could hear the conversations I overhear at school, you would be embarrassed. I feel that this is because of books/movies/music that have themes like Fifty Shades of Grey. Parents need to be better role models for their kids by not reading it themselves, and by also taking the time to read what their children are reading.