There are many more children who have divorced parents than when I was growing up in the 60’s. There were only about 9.2 divorces per 1,000 marriages in 1960. This number more than doubled in 1980 and it continues to increase.
I believe the main reason for the steady increase in the divorce rate is because we have become a disposable society. Automobiles, appliances, and cellphones are quickly replaced when the newest technology comes out. About 12 years ago I tried to have a microwave repaired; I had used it only for 2 years when it stopped working and the repair shop told me it was going to cost almost double to fix it than buying a new one.
It’s the same with marriages and relationships. I’ve heard many young people complain how someone they’re dating only stays with them until the next best thing comes around (I blame those numerous dating websites, but that’s a topic to explore another day). I also hear children complain about how a parent (or another family member) talks badly about the other parent.
Ephesians 5:22-33 is for wives and husbands, but it’s the first two verses of this chapter that show how we all should treat each other:
Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Ephesians 5:1-2 (ESV)
If we call ourselves Christians, we NEED to love each other. That means NOT speaking badly about your spouse or your ex-spouse, ESPECIALLY in front of the children. If you’re doing this, you’re sinning and setting a bad example to your children.
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Heavenly Father, I praise You as the Author of marriage. Thank You for Your Word that gives us the example of Biblical marriage and how we should treat our spouse. Thank You for faithful husbands and wives who live out these examples each day and who show others how we are to live and treat each other. Thank You for godly parents who desire to be obedient examples to their children. Father, I lift up those who are separated/divorced and ask that You please silence the negativity no matter who it comes from. Holy Spirit, please convict Christian parents and family members who choose to speak badly of ex-spouses. Please guide our homes to be loving and please restore broken relationships. I ask these things in Jesus’ precious name so You will be glorified. Amen.