Tag Archive | Sacrifice

Teaching each other through fellowship and NOT programs

I became a Christian at age 33 and
never had a Christian mentor.  When my mother passed away, I really could have used the help of an older Christian sister to help me then and to also hold me accountable in my spiritual growth. Titus 2 shows the responsibilities of church members, with verses 3-5 directed to females:

Titus 2
I believe many Christians have become too busy for real relationships.

Most churches are not hurting for programs.  With so many activities during the week, there are great needs in the church for workers and leaders.  I have witnessed how many churches put people in teaching positions and even leadership roles way too early in their Christian walk.  I have also noticed that there are many people within the church body who do not believe that we each have responsibilities within the church — their actions, of course, contradicting Romans 12:3-8 and 1 Corinthians 12:12-31.  I have also seen many give up serving in the church when their families are grown or even stop attending when life gets difficult.

 I am so VERY thankful for my current church home, Grace Family Fellowship. We are a reformed, family-integrated church that desires to walk in obedience to the Scriptures alone, and we align our families and our church in this same manner.  We believe that the leadership of the father in the home is paramount to the instruction of the family (and NOT the youth pastor or children’s minister), and that fellowship of the church is needed in order to have true accountability. We believe accountability begins with proper delivery of God’s Word through expository preaching. 

I now have more time for relationships with both older and younger women. I enjoy visiting with the younger women in my church, and I sometimes bring meals to give them a break from cooking.  These younger gals in my church are teaching me so much as I observe their obedience to the LORD in their actions, the way they allow their husbands to be the head of their households, and especially in the ways they work with their children — these young women do not expect the church to teach their children.  They also do not have their children in every extra-curricular activity like so many families do today.

So how are things done in your church?  Do you have so many programs available that you have little time for authentic fellowship with other believers?  Do you find yourself totally exhausted from all the volunteer work that you do?  Have you ever been mentored, or are you currently mentoring a young believer?  Do you have time for real relationships — not just reaching out to friends on the Internet?


Memorial Day

Memorial day

Less than 1% of the U.S. population have served in the armed forces.

 My hubby and I are in that one percent.  We both spent four years in the Air Force and met while serving overseas.  I also served almost 6 years in the Air National Guard.  I chose to get out of the military the fall of 1991 when I was pregnant with my second child, shortly after the Persian Gulf War.

 My unit didn’t go to the Persian Gulf because a very crucial piece of equipment was out for repair during this time.  Although my unit wasn’t activated, a few personnel were. Children had to stay with their grandparents when couples were activated for duty.  These are the kind of sacrifices that are made when people choose to serve their country.

I loved serving my country, but I also loved being a mom and I knew I could not do both jobs well.  I choose being a mom over having a military career.  I think it’s the best career choice I ever made.     ❤

I have never felt comfortable when people thank me for my military service on
Memorial Day.  Memorial Day is a day set aside for solemn remembrance of those who lost their lives while defending our freedoms.  My husband and I were once members of a church that gave recognition to veterans by asking them to come forward on Memorial Day.  We chose to stay seated during that church service because we felt this was not appropriate. They had good intentions, but definitely unfitting.

Our son is also a veteran, having served in the Army as a medic. He was stationed in Afghanistan for a year, not too far from the Pakistan border. He has shared some of what he went through but like most veterans who have experienced the traumas of war, he chooses to keep most of these to himself.  Memorial Day carries a new significance to us now because we know he has had friends who did not make it back home.

I want to challenge you to do something for veterans, and not just on Memorial Day.  There are many veterans who carry physical and emotional scars.  Research many of the great charities such as the Gary Sinise Foundation, CRU Military Ministry, and Operation Heal Our Patriots.  Volunteer at your local VA hospital or contact your local VFW.

Whatever you do, please do not thank a veteran for his/her service today.

 This can be an especially gloomy day for those who’ve lost friends either overseas or from the effects of PTSD.  Many veterans continue to fight an unseen battle, the psychological war from what they’ve gone through.  Thanking them for their service today may only hurt them further because they’re thinking of those who didn’t make it back.  Instead, invite them out to dinner or to your family’s barbecue.  Ask them if they’d like to talk about someone they served with.  Please serve them during the year, and not just on Memorial Day.

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 Heavenly Father, thank You for the bravery You have given the men and women who  selflessly serve our country.  Thank You for giving wisdom to military commanders and leaders.  Father, please protect those who are in harm’s way right now, guide their footsteps and blind the enemy to their comings and goings.  I lift up those who have lost friends and loved ones who were defending our country; please hold them close and comfort them as only You can.  I lift up those men and women who are fighting PTSD; please protect their minds from the things they’ve seen and experienced, and give wisdom to their families and physicians as they try to help them.   Please guide our government officials in ways to improve our VA system and please continue to expose flaws in the system so it can be improved.  Please show us all ways that we can each help our veterans, in ways that would bring glory to You.  I ask these thing in Jesus’ precious name.  Amen.

May the TRUE Force be with you!!

May 4th is considered the unofficial holiday by most Star Wars fans to celebrate
the franchise’s film series, books and culture. The date ‘May the 4th’ sounds similar
to the series’ popular phrase – “May the Force be with you”, which is why many
fans will post on their Facebook pages, “May the fourth be with you.”



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The Bible is very clear about evil (darkness) and good (light):

“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter.” Isaiah 5:20 (NIV)

When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8:12 (NIV)

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We all have a choice: to either follow evil in our own selfish desires or to follow Jesus.
No matter how hard I want to “be good”, I always mess up because I will never measure up to Jesus. I must choose DAILY to follow Him, asking for His guidance in my struggles with the sin of this world (such as anger, unforgiveness to those who hurt me, overeating, etc.) and His forgiveness when I fail.  1 John 1:5-10 confirms that we can NOT claim to be His and then continue to walk in the darkness:

This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you:
God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness,
we lie and do not live out the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light,
we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son,
purifies us from all sin.

  If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins
and purify us from all unrighteousness.  If we claim we have not sinned,
we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.

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Get moving



I am using technology to help keep me accountable.  I use a fitbit to log how
many step I take each day.  I find that I’m looking for ways to take extra steps during
my day to get to 10,000 steps.  Yesterday I walked 8,113 steps, so I’m getting close:


“Pursue excellence in mind, body and spirit for God’s glory.”
“Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31 b


Intentional Sacrifice

In chapter 17 of Made to Crave, Lysa TerKeurst writes about lasting, sustainable
discipline and the importance of making one wise choice after another.


This is my third time reading Made to Crave. I am down another 10 pounds because
I’m exercising more and I am also eating healthier than I have in the last 20 years.

Losing 10 pounds is great, but the habits that are more important are the
spiritual disciplines I’ve picked up this time. I am reading and staying in His Word,
getting rid of the negative thoughts by “parking my mind in a better spot”,
and making this journey about worshiping God:

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters,
in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies
as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—
this is your true and proper worship.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world,
but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—
his good, pleasing and perfect will.”  
Romans 12:1-2 (NLT)

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The Holy Spirit is inspiring me to make one wise choice after another
and I do believe that these are sustainable disciplines. To God be the glory!!

This is one of the personal reflection questions from page 145:

“A mosaic is a work of art made up of hundreds or thousands of tiny broken
pieces of  glass or ceramic tile.  Lysa describes how God is making a mosaic
of restoration and healing in her heart, gathering up her broken pieces and
making them into something beautiful.   Can you imagine God doing
something like this in your heart?   If God used the broken pieces of your
life to make a beautiful image, what do you hope it would look like?”

 To celebrate the wonderful restoration God has been doing on my own heart,
I am making a mosaic heart using broken shell pieces that I picked up at
Jones Beach the last time I was on Long Island.  If you’d like to do something similar
(you can use broken shells, broken china, broken pieces of glass, beads, etc.),
here is a link on “how to make a mosaic heart”
and other ideas on Pinterest.

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mosaic heart

Heavenly Father, thank You for this journey and the things You are teaching me. Thank You for reminding me that this is not a diet and that this is a spiritual journey. Please continue to show me ways I must remove myself from temptation so that I may be obedient to Your voice — I desire to lead a life that is physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy so I can be used for Your glory. Please accept what I am doing to improve myself as my sacrificial offering to You —may they be a pleasing aroma to You. In Jesus’ name I pray.  Amen.