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My Renovation Project

I am facilitating a study of “Taste for Truth” by Barb Ravling with about 50 ladies online.  This week we are focusing on appearance and renewing the mind.

My earthly father called me Fatty Patty.  I wasn’t fat.   He also called me dummy.  I’m not dumb.  I’ve carried those lies with me far too long in this life.


I renew my mind by reading God’s Truth.  I can not do this on my own; I’m being extremely prideful when I try to make any renovations in my life on my own.

My earthly father passed away 13 years ago today.

I thought I would become free that day.  Free from having an abusive earthly father.  Free from worrying about the possibility of him hurting my children or grandchildren.  Free from his anger and hatred.  Free from the bad memories of my childhood.

My life did not change on that day because I was already free when I was accepted into the family of God. ❤  I have had a loving Father for almost 23 years now.  A Father Who has accepted me, Who doesn’t call me names and Who doesn’t hurt me.  A Father Who wants the best for me and Who doesn’t put me down.  A forgiving Father Who guides me in His Truth, Who lovingly corrects me, and Who shows me how to do better in this life.  A Father I willingly obey because He loves me, He cares for me, and He protects me.

I am who I am because of Christ, NOT my earthly father.  I am who I am because I’ve been forgiven.  I am who I am because I renew my mind with God’s Truth and do not pollute my mind with what the world says I should feel.


If you had an abusive father or didn’t have a father present in your life at all, you DO have a heavenly Father Who loves you and desires the best for you:

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.”
Revelation 3:20 (ESV)



A Heart at Rest

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Something the LORD has been working on me since becoming a Christian 19 years ago is learning to trust people. Through the study, “What Happens When Women Say Yes to God”, I have learned that I can often be a very cynical person. I experienced some things in my childhood that often resurfaces a critical, unforgiving spirit in me.

I have found that I have an easier time forgiving a non-Christian than a fellow believer.  So what happens when a Christian hurts me or doesn’t act according to how God’s Word says we should act?  Sometimes I allow old ways of negative thinking to creep back in.

I’ve been out of sorts for the last few weeks and couldn’t put my finger on it.  I gave up Facebook and television so I’d have a week to concentrate on God’s Word and not the things of this world.

Sacrificial giving of money or things is easy for me.  I don’t have anything very valuable or cherished that I couldn’t part with because I realize everything in my possession actually belongs to the LORD.  Forgiveness has always been the hardest thing for me to give someone, and sadly, our adversary knows this about me.

“Try to see others as Jesus see them” is statement a college professor wrote on one of my papers 8 years ago.   When a friend or family member hurts me, I need to see them as Jesus sees them.  When a Christian acts contrary to what the Bible says, I need to see them as Jesus see them.  When I get irritated at the selfish actions of Christians and feel ready to give up on people, I need to see us as Jesus sees us.

Only Jesus was is perfect.  Humans are ALL still sinners, who will NEVER be sin-free while living this life on Earth (Romans 3:23).  I need to love others by giving them grace…the same grace that the LORD gives me.  I need to remind myself daily of this truth.  When I do, my heart is at rest.

“Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.  This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence.”  (1 John 3:18-19)